Who decided my body was fair game for public discourse?

Shove off, it’s nothing to do with you!

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How many times, as a woman, have you been asked ‘when are you getting married’ or when are you having children’. It happens to me all the time. It seems like every time a woman gets married or reaches a certain age, she starts getting asked the question “When are you going to have kids?” While it may seem like an innocent inquiry, this question can be loaded with a lot of pressure and assumptions.

First of all, let’s consider women who may be struggling with infertility or health issues like endometriosis. These conditions can make it difficult or even impossible to get pregnant, and constantly being asked about having children can be a painful reminder of that fact.

Additionally, starting a family can be a huge financial commitment. Many people choose to wait until they have a stable income and secure financial future before starting a family. Asking someone about their plans to have children assumes that they are in a financial position to do so, which may not be the case.

And what about the women who are focused on their careers. Having children often requires taking time off work, and it can be challenging to come back and regain the same level of success and advancement. Asking about pregnancy plans can put pressure on women to choose between their careers and starting a family.

However, top of all these reasons not to, is ‘IT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS’.

So Shove off and stop asking.